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” I write because I don’t know what I think until I read what I say.” – Flannery O’Conner

One of my favorite quotes. One of my favorite because I feel the same way. I don’t know how I would make decisions or function really without being able to write.. and then read what I have written. Personally, I don’t think anyone who “writes” to write for others is really a writer. Even the Max Lucado’s of the world. I’d bet he learns something about himself or has some sort of personal growth every time he sits down and writes even if its for someone else.

Tonight I went to see the movie ‘Wild’ with Reese Witherspoon, based on the book written by Cheryl Strayed. I won’t give a full book club discush here but I will say I have not enjoyed a movie quite like this one in a while. Basically after a divorce and life and her mother dying girl decides to hike the pct trail… alone.

Since I am not a writer I am a list maker I will do just that including some random thoughts and quotes from the movie/book.

1. “I knew that if I allowed fear to overtake me, my journey was doomed. Fear, to a great extent, is born of a story we tell ourselves, and so I choose to tell myself a different story from the one women are told. I decided I was safe. I was strong. I was brave. Nothing could vanquish me.”

2. Reese Witherspoon is genuinely beautiful. Throughout the movie she looked so normal and plain, often very dirty but beautiful.

3. A lot of my life starting from moving non stop growing up till college – I didn’t really know where I was going until I got there. Which is basically the purpose of Cheryl’s adventure – to learn who to be and how to be when she got to the end of her hike. So she could stop arriving.

4. “If there’s one thing I can teach you, it’s how to find your best self and when you do, hold on to it for dear life.”

5. I have some strange attachment to literature – and this movie tied in so many good authors Emily Dickinson, Flannery O’Conner and a few others…

6. I love the grit and the incessant desire to deal with her ugly – inside and out.

Okay, I am done. Now go watch this movie.


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But who can say what's best? That's why you need to grab whatever chance you have of happiness where you find it, and not worry about other people too much. My experience tells me that we get no more than two or three such chances in a life time, and if we let them go, we regret it for the rest of our lives.”  ― Haruki Murakami, Norwegian Wood



I heard an attorney recently talking about a person being successful when they can fully understand all options in a situation. And it really made me start thinking about having the ability to have intellectual empathy and ability to control my opinion regardless of someone elses. Then at lunch the same day I listened to Joyce Meyer debating and heard her say “how many people do you not agree with because they’re not what you want them to be?” Throughout the message she continued to ask questions to initiate a self assessment within the crowd – and it was a very good approach. I have listed some of her questions and some of my own.

  1. How many people do you not agree with because they’re not what you want them to be?
  2. Has anyone granted you the right to have an opinion about another person – really?
  3. Have you ever had to justify a rude action and answered “I just want the best for them”?
  4. Don’t we all base our opinions of someone or something based on our own perspective, priorities or position on it?
  5. Isn’t the only behavior we truly “know” are the behaviors we are doing or have done?
  6. Aren’t feelings and emotions ever changing?
  7. Does not wanting emotions make them go away – or wanting emotions make them come?
  8. Do you ever, like a child, look for approval regardless of what it is you are desiring approval of?

But who can say what’s best? That’s why you need to grab whatever chance you have of happiness where you find it, and not worry about other people too much. My experience tells me that we get no more than two or three such chances in a life time, and if we let them go, we regret it for the rest of our lives.” ― Haruki Murakami, Norwegian Wood

Black flies.

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About a year ago my first article was published. It wasn’t anything complex or educational – quite stupid actually. There is something unique about writing, even if it doesn’t make sense to anyone else. Almost like freedom in getting thoughts out on paper. I guess this is a way for me to empty my head, allowing more room for other things. At 26 and some change, I don’t actually have anything figured out – that in it’s self is opposite of what I thought a year ago. So for the sake of tradition – which i love- I will tell you what I know to be true at 26 years old.

1. Keep expectations low – standards high.
2. Education does not equal intelligence.
3. Loving and being in love are different things.
4. Hours spent with ones self can be hours well spent.
5. First impressions are crucial.
6. Every single person has something in them the world needs.
7. You can change yourself, but no one else.
8. Listening is often times more important than speaking.
9. Humor is a necessity.
10. Hangovers take more recovery time.
11. Happily living alone is something that can be done.
12. Age spots and surprise teenage acne really happen at the same time.
13. Don’t trust any feeling after 10 pm or before 8 am.
14. My soul must be soothed on a weekly basis.
15. Parents aging is a real life thing.
16. Saving dollars will pay off.
17. Exercise does more for my mind than my body.
18. Treasure routine – but take advantage of spontaneity once in a while.
19. Watching cops and eating cereal for dinner is still okay at 26.
20. A job that doesn’t mentally stimulate me is a waste of my time.
21. Honesty is the best policy.
22. You can’t choose the role you will play in another’s life.
23. Geriatrics are gems, and make my heart so full.
24. Life is a paradox. To appreciate good, you must know how bad feels.
25. Feeling everything deeply is in fact a blessing and a curse.
26. People often make bad decisions, love them anyway.
27. Feeling like a child is a rarity and should be cherished.
28. Drinking beer makes me chubby.
29. Organic Milk costs more but lasts much longer than regular.
30. Lip stick.. yes, lip stick is part of my life now.

What’s on tonight…

It’s so contradicting to post this on my BLOG, but if I needed to think about it I am sure everyone else does too. Granted, this dudes grammar isn’t supreme, but his effort is valiant. I promise the best months I have had in my LIFE were the ones I lived with 8 inner-city kids in the middle of the woods in the summer with no AC. Where we had to work our problems out interpersonally. Where things were simple, tough but fun. No cell phone/fb/snapchat whatever for the summer. But if it weren’t for technology how would I know that they are in their first year of college right now?  I wouldn’t. Blessing and a curse.

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Lifelong romance: This couple has been married for 64 years! They have four children, eleven grandchildren, and ten great-grandchilden.

Old love is what makes me think there is hope for the world. I tell you this story not so that you can think this old man is cute, but to realize there is good in the world – and that this is what life is about.

Today I talked with a little old man about his currently situation. Wife of a hell of a long time diagnosed with Alzheimer’s some time ago, and chose for her to live with him because he vowed to take care of her in the good and in the bad. Some of you might not understand what that means for this man. Living with someone with later stages of Alzheimer’s is like babysitting. Things such as simple daily routines are non-existent to her. Bathing, eating, sleeping, driving, conversing, going potty, none of those things are possible on her own in the later stages of Alzheimer’s. So, he shared with me that he was struggling keeping up with his wife. He, like anyone else at his age, his health is starting to deteriorate. He needed help with Medicare, and we discussed that for a bit….Then he began telling me about the last time he had to call an ambulance.  “I sat there across the room from her, the love of my life, and she couldn’t pour herself a glass of water. I had already been feeling bad that day. Then something just happened and I couldn’t handle it. I knew I needed help I just didn’t know why I wasn’t feeling okay.” He went on to share with me that basically when EMS got him in the ambulance – he couldn’t utter the words “heartbreak or heart ache” or say anything at all. He was confused, sad, sick, and then he realized he was about to drive away from their house. Driving away from their house meant leaving her, alone. He said he then cried. It was the first time in years he had left her. He had the sweetest southern accent. He proceeded to tell me parts of that conversation over again, and again, aaannnd again but that’s not the point.

Some of you might not get anything from this, and it might very well be one of those “guess you gotta be there” moments. But, for what it’s worth, that sweet old man made my heart happy. Life is too short to live unhappy. We are here to love each other. I think it’s rare now days for someone to have such a raw love and compassion.

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